January 29, 2014
What is it about life that is the most disappointing?
Think about that for just a minute and then read on.
I would venture to guess that the top reasons for disappointment are failed expectations. We hoped one thing but reality became something else. And that seems to be true in everything from who we expect to win a game…to what we expect of the one with whom we choose to spend the rest of our lives…to what we expect of the preacher. Expectations, or failed expectations have been and will continue to be reason for much anxiety and inner turmoil.
It seems that how we view things affects our attitudes and lives in general…the more sure and certain we are, the more frustrating when things don’t go quite like they are supposed to go. The more sure we are, the more exceptions seem to bother us. The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
In other words, when we put too much emphasis on great expectations we often become disenchanted when we realize we didn’t quite have it all figured out like we thought we did. This seems true in our secular life but its also true in our spiritual life.
A little bit of healthy uncertainty seems helpful…
I read this the other day and it explains – at least to me – the way I often feel about the spiritual life. And since the spiritual life seems to affect the rest of our life I thought it worth repeating. W. Paul Jones writes:
“The Christian is proud to be a fool for Christ. Such a fool is obedient, yet free; under law, yet walking by grace; sinful, yet forgiven; unlovable, yet unconditionally loved; a believer, but with a healthy skepticism; certain, but only by making the ultimate gamble. The Christian claims that God is definitely revealed in Christ, yet is still the Hidden One; knows deeply, but in a cloud of unknowing; believes, but only by faith; and acknowledges that while all things have been made new, everything remains much the same.”
It is a good thing to have expectations, just leave room for those expectations to be a work in progress.